xfs: combine xfs_trans_ail_[remove|delete]()

Now that the functions and callers of
xfs_trans_ail_[remove|delete]() have been fixed up appropriately,
the only difference between the two is the shutdown behavior. There
are only a few callers of the _remove() variant, so make the
shutdown conditional on the parameter and combine the two functions.

Suggested-by: Dave Chinner <david@fromorbit.com>
Signed-off-by: Brian Foster <bfoster@redhat.com>
Reviewed-by: Dave Chinner <dchinner@redhat.com>
Reviewed-by: Darrick J. Wong <darrick.wong@oracle.com>
Reviewed-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>
Reviewed-by: Allison Collins <allison.henderson@oracle.com>
Signed-off-by: Darrick J. Wong <darrick.wong@oracle.com>