vfio-iommufd: Split bind/attach into two steps

This aligns the bind/attach logic with the coming vfio device cdev support.

Reviewed-by: Kevin Tian <kevin.tian@intel.com>
Reviewed-by: Jason Gunthorpe <jgg@nvidia.com>
Tested-by: Terrence Xu <terrence.xu@intel.com>
Tested-by: Nicolin Chen <nicolinc@nvidia.com>
Tested-by: Matthew Rosato <mjrosato@linux.ibm.com>
Tested-by: Yanting Jiang <yanting.jiang@intel.com>
Tested-by: Shameer Kolothum <shameerali.kolothum.thodi@huawei.com>
Tested-by: Zhenzhong Duan <zhenzhong.duan@intel.com>
Signed-off-by: Yi Liu <yi.l.liu@intel.com>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/20230718135551.6592-12-yi.l.liu@intel.com


Signed-off-by: Alex Williamson <alex.williamson@redhat.com>