md: make bitmap file support optional

The support for write intent bitmaps in files on an external files in md
is a hot mess that abuses ->bmap to map file offsets into physical device
objects, and also abuses buffer_heads in a creative way.

Make this code optional so that MD can be built into future kernels
without buffer_head support, and so that we can eventually deprecate it.

Note this does not affect the internal bitmap support, which has none of
the problems.

Signed-off-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>
Reviewed-by: Hannes Reinecke <hare@suse.de>
Reviewed-by: Himanshu Madhani <himanshu.madhani@oracle.com>
Signed-off-by: Song Liu <song@kernel.org>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/20230615064840.629492-11-hch@lst.de