NFS: Don't ask for readdirplus unless it can help nfs_getattr()

If attribute caching is turned off, then use of readdirplus is not going
to help stat() performance.
Readdirplus also doesn't help if a file is being written to, since we
will have to flush those writes in order to sync the mtime/ctime.

Signed-off-by: Trond Myklebust <trond.myklebust@hammerspace.com>