media: amphion: sync buffer status with firmware during abort

1. prevent to allocate buffer to firmware during abort
2. release buffer when clear the slots

Fixes: 6de8d628 ("media: amphion: add v4l2 m2m vpu decoder stateful driver")
Signed-off-by: Ming Qian <ming.qian@nxp.com>
Signed-off-by: Hans Verkuil <hverkuil-cisco@xs4all.nl>
Signed-off-by: Mauro Carvalho Chehab <mchehab@kernel.org>