selftests/bpf: Redo the switch to new libbpf XDP APIs

Switch to using new bpf_xdp_*() APIs across all selftests. Take
advantage of a more straightforward and user-friendly semantics of
old_prog_fd (0 means "don't care") in few places.

This is a redo of 54435652 ("selftests/bpf: switch to new libbpf XDP
APIs"), which was previously reverted to minimize conflicts during bpf
and bpf-next tree merge.

Signed-off-by: Andrii Nakryiko <andrii@kernel.org>
Signed-off-by: Daniel Borkmann <daniel@iogearbox.net>
Reviewed-by: Quentin Monnet <quentin@isovalent.com>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/bpf/20220202225916.3313522-6-andrii@kernel.org