[media] v4l2-ctrls: split try_or_set_ext_ctrls()

Split try_or_set_ext_ctrls() into a validate_ctrls() part ('Phase 1')
and merge the second part ('Phase 2') into try_set_ext_ctrls().

This makes a lot more sense and it also does the validation before
trying to try/set the controls.

Signed-off-by: Hans Verkuil <hans.verkuil@cisco.com>
Signed-off-by: Mauro Carvalho Chehab <mchehab@redhat.com>