xfs: use a union for i_cowextsize and i_flushiter

The i_cowextsize field is only used for v3 inodes, and the i_flushiter
field is only used for v1/v2 inodes.  Use a union to pack the inode a
littler better after adding a few missing guards around their usage.

Signed-off-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>
Reviewed-by: Darrick J. Wong <djwong@kernel.org>
Signed-off-by: Darrick J. Wong <djwong@kernel.org>